There it is, the guilt. Are you compromising your valuable time with your child, or compromising your potential as a business owner? I have thought of this often and I’ve realised something, the guilt doesn’t go away; you just learn to manage it.
Mum's with similar values are like gold. I wagged mothers group so I pulled on my community tribe for support instead. If you don't know parents that you connect with then look up social groups online. Other parents offer advice, support or simply someone to chat with outside of the hectic work-home zone. Some mum's work, others don't, but we all have a common understanding for raising little ones as wholesomely as possible.
- Make time schedules, every day has an action plan. Be prepared for this plan to fall to pieces because of unforeseen circumstances.
- Communicate clearly with your partner and note on a shared calendar when you need them to support you.
- Gather a team to help. We used to raise children in community, now everyone is busy so source a variety of people that you can call on at different times. Make sure that they know your parenting values and that you feel comfortable with them. If you don’t have family, friend or neighbour support then you need to budget in paid support.
- This working parent business is exhausting. Work out what you value as fulfilling and make sure you schedule this in regularly. You need some heart juice that gives you the fuel to keep up the hectic routine. It may be a sunset walk with your family, a stash of incredible chocolate or a muscle crunching work out. We all need survival tactics.
- Dedicate time each week to do one of your roles well. Have a day, or part of, dedicated to play time with your children. Turn your phone off for play time. Also have office time where your child is taken care of so you can properly answer emails.
- At one point your child may get sick and it will most likely be when you are needed at work. Have a back up plan in place for when this happens such as a trained employee to fill in for you. When I have had to send in other contractors so I can look after my son I've felt grateful to be able to be there with him.
- When you need to be at a meeting, gig or anywhere at a particular time, your child is likely to spill something on you, have a tantrum or hide your car keys. Make sure you adjust your getting ready time to accommodate.
Absolutely. I wouldn't change it for the world.
Working has worked for us and I think it's been beneficial to my son. He has a whole load of 'faerie aunties' who he adores and he gets to be out and about on weekends as I charge around the place performing at events.
I think there are some amazing stay at home parents and functioning working parents too. Each situation is different. For me, I need both work and a family but I can only achieving this with a support team.
I've been working as a faerie for over 20 years, I've written books, performed around the world and developed a company that I am proud of. But my greatest creation is my son.